Where to Find Godly Men to Date: A Guide for Christian Women
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I always wanted to get married by 25 and start building a family straight away. I didn’t end up getting married until my mid 30’s. For over a decade I was dating the wrong way. It wasn’t until I started dating the right way I ended up getting married. It was quick too! I was married within 6 weeks of changing my dating methods.
You see I always thought you dating someone compatible, fall and love and then get married. The problem is my partners never had the same outlook. I was dating guys that I hoped wanted to get married but they didn’t.
I was afraid to ask someone if they were looking for marriage during the early phases of dating because I was scared that I would scare them off. This was my #1 mistake. You see if the person you are dating is not dating for marriage, you shouldn’t be dating them. If the thought of marriage scares your prospective partner, he is not the one for you, and you need to move on.
In today’s world, finding a partner who shares your faith, values, and commitment to a Godly life can feel like a daunting task. I remember when I first started Christian dating, there were many guys on the dating apps that were ‘Christian’ by label, not by their acts.
As a Christian woman, you likely desire a relationship with the goal of marriage rooted in mutual respect, shared beliefs, and a love for God. So, where do you start? This guide will provide you with practical tips and places to meet Godly men who prioritize their relationship with Christ.
1. Get Involved in Your Local Church
The church is one of the best places to meet Godly men. By getting involved in your local congregation, you can meet men who are active in their faith and committed to serving God. Here’s how you can connect:
- Join Small Groups or Bible Studies: Small groups or Bible studies are excellent for building connections in a more intimate setting. You can engage in meaningful conversations about scripture, share your testimony, and observe how others express their faith. For LDS Christians going to institute classes once a week is a great opportunity to meet new active church members.
- Volunteer for Church Ministries: Whether it’s the worship team, children’s ministry, or outreach programs, volunteering allows you to work alongside others who share your passion for serving God. For LDS Christians, this means taking on callings and other opportunities the church has to offer that bring members together, such as cleaning the church or temple.
- Attend Church Events: Social gatherings, singles nights, retreats, and church firesides provide a relaxed atmosphere for meeting new people.
2. Explore Christian Dating Apps
I met both of my husbands on dating apps. I’m not going to lie I used to be embarrassed to tell people that, but it does not have the ‘weird people’ stigma that it used to! My first husband I met on LDS singles, and my second husband I met on Facebook dating.
When I started dating using Christian apps I found a lot of the men said they were active Christians but it couldn’t be further from the truth. I was shocked and appalled that so many of these “Christian men” were pressuring me to have sex on the first date.
I felt like giving up, and then I decided I just needed to make my screening process a little more regimented and tell them what I was looking for so that if they were looking for a quick hook-up, I’m not down with that, so they may as well move on.
There are several faith-based dating platforms where you can connect with Godly men who are seeking a Christ-centered relationship:
- Christian Mingle: Specifically designed for Christians, this platform allows you to filter profiles based on shared faith and values.
- eHarmony (Christian Filters): While not exclusively for Christians, eHarmony allows you to highlight your faith as a priority in matching.
- Upward: A newer app tailored to Christian singles, making it easier to meet like-minded individuals.
- LDS Singles: Website that asks questions and assigns them to the profile, such as worthiness.
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3. Attend Christian Conferences and Events
Christian conferences, seminars, firesides, single ward parties, and workshops offer opportunities to meet Godly men who are actively seeking spiritual growth. These events often focus on topics like relationships, leadership, or personal development from a biblical perspective. Examples include:
- Marriage and Relationship Seminars: Designed for singles and couples, these events often attract individuals who are intentional about preparing for godly relationships.
- Worship Nights or Revivals: Shared worship experiences can foster deep connections.
- Christian Leadership Conferences: These events attract men who are dedicated to living out their faith in impactful ways.
4. Join Christian Social Groups and Clubs
Many communities offer Christian-based social groups, book clubs, or recreational activities. Joining these groups provides a casual environment for meeting like-minded individuals. There are so many Christian and LDS groups on Facebook designed for dating, others for meeting up and having fun together, such as hiking or SUP (stand-up paddle boarding). Look for activities such as:
- Christian Hiking or Adventure Groups: Combine your love for the outdoors with the opportunity to meet godly men.
- Faith-Based Book Clubs: Discussing Christian literature can lead to meaningful conversations and connections.
- Community Service Projects: Many Christian organizations host service events where you can meet others with a heart for helping.
You can use Facebook to help you find these groups, or meet-ups is also another great tool to use for joining activity groups for Christian singles.
5. Seek Connections Through Mutual Friends
Don’t underestimate the power of your network. Let your Christian friends and family know that you’re open to meeting someone. They may know Godly men who are also seeking a Christ-centered relationship. Attending weddings, dinner parties, or other gatherings can also create opportunities to meet potential partners.
6. Participate in Missions or Volunteer Work
Serving others is a hallmark of a Godly lifestyle, and mission trips or volunteer projects often attract individuals with a strong commitment to their faith. By participating in these activities, you not only make a difference but also increase your chances of meeting someone who shares your values.
Examples of volunteer opportunities include:
- Local Food Banks or Shelters: Show compassion and meet others who have a heart for service.
- International Mission Trips: Working together in challenging environments can create strong bonds.
- Church Outreach Programs: Help spread God’s love while meeting others who share your passion.
7. Engage in Prayer and Personal Growth
Before seeking a relationship, focus on your own spiritual growth. A strong relationship with God will guide you to the right partner in His timing. When I was preparing to meet my husband-to-be, I was heavily prompted by the Holy Spirit to join an Eternal Families study class each and every week. I knew that this was Gods way of showing me how to get ready for my Husband.
Here are some steps to consider:
- Pray for Guidance: Ask God to lead you to a Godly man and to prepare your heart for a Christ-centered relationship.
- Study Scripture: Dive into the Bible to understand God’s design for relationships and marriage.
- Develop Godly Traits: Cultivate patience, kindness, and humility in your life. These qualities will not only attract a godly partner but also strengthen your future relationship.
8. Be Active in Your Community
Sometimes, Godly men may not be found exclusively in church settings. Look for opportunities to connect with others in the broader Christian community:
- Attend Faith-Based Sports Leagues: Many cities offer recreational leagues with a Christian focus.
- Join Christian Meetups: Platforms like Meetup often have faith-based groups for singles or specific interests.
- Participate in Charity Events: Look for events hosted by Christian organizations.
9. Look for Godly Character, Not Perfection
As you seek a partner, remember that no one is perfect. Focus on finding a man who:
- Loves God and strives to live according to His Word.
- Demonstrates humility and a willingness to grow spiritually.
- Shows kindness, integrity, and respect in his interactions with others.
Pray for discernment to recognize these qualities and be open to God’s plan, even if it looks different from your expectations.
For those looking for a Godly man it’s good to know the traits you are looking for. We have put together an entire guide on what Godly traits in men you should be looking for in a future partner.
10. Stay Patient and Trust God’s Timing
Finding a Godly partner requires patience and trust in God’s plan for your life. It can be tempting to rush into relationships, but it’s essential to wait for the right person—someone who will complement your faith journey and support your walk with Christ.
Just remember if you are dating the wrong person you don’t have any time left over to date the right person.
Tips for Staying Patient:
- Keep busy with activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
- Surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
- Focus on deepening your relationship with God.
Conclusion
Finding a Godly man to date may take time, but with prayer, patience, and intentionality, it is possible. Whether through your church, community, or shared activities, there are many opportunities to meet men who prioritize their relationship with Christ.
Trust in God’s plan and use this season of singleness to grow spiritually and prepare for the relationship. Check out our guide on how to develop Godly traits so that you are spiritually prepared to meet your future partners. Remember, a Christ-centered relationship is worth the wait!
May God bless you,
Vanessa Rooney – LDS Mum
