What the Bible Really Says About Soulmates—You’ll Be Shocked!
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The Truth About Soulmates in Christian Relationships
The idea of soulmates is everywhere—from romantic movies to fairy tales to love songs. Many Christians grow up believing that God has created one perfect person just for them, someone who will complete them and make their life whole. But what does the Bible really say about soulmates? The truth might surprise you!
Where Did the Idea of Soulmates Come From?
The concept of soulmates isn’t originally a biblical idea. It actually comes from Greek mythology! The philosopher Plato wrote about an ancient belief that humans were once whole beings but were split into two separate halves by the gods. According to this myth, people spend their lives searching for their “other half.” While this idea is romantic, it doesn’t align with the Bible’s teachings on love, marriage, and God’s plan for relationships.
Does the Bible Say There Is “The One” for You?
Many people believe that God has one single person chosen for them to marry, but the Bible doesn’t actually support this idea. Instead, Scripture teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant, a choice we make, and a commitment that requires effort, selflessness, and God’s guidance.
Here are a few biblical truths that challenge the soulmate myth:
- Marriage Is a Covenant, Not Fate – In Malachi 2:14, God refers to marriage as a covenant, which means it is a serious, lifelong commitment. A Godly marriage isn’t about finding your one predestined partner but about choosing to love and honor the person you commit to.
- Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling – Many people search for a soulmate because they expect love to be effortless with the “right” person. However, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 describes love as patient, kind, and enduring. Real love takes work, no matter who you marry.
- God Gives Us Free Will in Relationships – The Bible emphasizes wisdom and discernment in choosing a spouse. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Notice it says finds—implying that we have a role in choosing wisely rather than waiting for fate to deliver our soulmate.
What Should Christians Look for in a Spouse?
Instead of searching for a mystical soulmate, the Bible encourages us to seek a partner who loves God and shares our values. Here’s what to look for in a godly relationship:
- Faith in Christ – 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns believers not to be “unequally yoked” with unbelievers. A strong Christian marriage requires both partners to be grounded in their faith.
- Godly Character – Proverbs 31 describes the qualities of a virtuous woman, and Ephesians 5:25 instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Look for someone who demonstrates biblical love and integrity.
- Commitment to Biblical Marriage – A lasting marriage isn’t based on perfect compatibility but on a shared commitment to honoring God in your relationship.
The Danger of Believing in Soulmates
The soulmate myth can actually harm relationships in several ways:
- It creates unrealistic expectations. Many people believe that if they find “the one,” their relationship will be easy and free from struggles. In reality, all marriages require effort and sacrifice.
- It makes people doubt their marriages. If problems arise, someone who believes in soulmates might think they married the wrong person and start looking elsewhere.
- It takes God’s role out of the equation. Instead of trusting God’s wisdom and guidance, people who believe in soulmates may rely too much on emotions or coincidences.
God’s Plan for Love and Marriage
Rather than waiting for a perfect person to appear, Christians should focus on building Christ-centered relationships. Here’s how:
- Pray for Wisdom – Ask God to guide your relationship decisions and help you discern the right qualities in a spouse.
- Invest in Your Marriage – If you’re already married, focus on strengthening your relationship through prayer, communication, and commitment.
- Trust God’s Timing – Instead of chasing the idea of a soulmate, trust that God will lead you to a godly partner when the time is right.
Conclusion: A Biblical View of Love
The Bible doesn’t support the idea of soulmates, but it does teach us how to build strong, lasting relationships based on faith, love, and commitment. Marriage isn’t about finding someone who completes you—it’s about two people choosing to follow Christ together. So instead of looking for your soulmate, focus on becoming the kind of person who honors God in relationships. That’s where true love is found!
Are you surprised by what the Bible says about soulmates? Let’s discuss in the comments below!
Vanessa Rooney – LDS Mum
