Cultivating self-love: Seeing Ourselves Through Christ’s Eyes
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In a world filled with comparison, self-doubt, and unrealistic standards, it can be challenging to maintain a healthy sense of self-worth. But the teachings of Jesus Christ remind us that our value is infinite and unchanging.
When we see ourselves through Christ’s eyes, we begin to embrace our divine identity and develop true love for ourselves. This article explores how to combat negative self-talk, embrace Christ’s love, and nurture self-worth rooted in our eternal purpose.
Understanding Our Divine Identity
One of the most empowering truths of the gospel is that we are children of God. As stated in Romans 8:16, “The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God.” This divine identity means that we have inherent worth, not based on worldly achievements or appearance, but on our eternal nature.
Jesus Christ’s love for us is unconditional and boundless. In Matthew 10:29-31, He reassures us, “Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? And one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows.” Recognizing this love is the first step toward seeing ourselves as He does.
Combating Negative Self-Talk
Negative self-talk can erode self-esteem and cloud our understanding of our divine worth. Psychologists note that these internal dialogues often stem from past experiences, societal pressures, or unmet expectations. Identifying and reframing these thoughts is essential for cultivating self-love.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Techniques to restore self love
CBT offers practical methods to challenge and change negative thought patterns:
- Identify Negative Thoughts: Write down critical or self-deprecating thoughts as they arise.
- Challenge the Thoughts: Ask yourself, “Is this thought true? What evidence supports or refutes it?”
- Replace with Positive Affirmations: Replace negativity with affirmations aligned with gospel truths, such as “I am a beloved child of God” or “My worth is not dependent on my accomplishments.”
- Practice Gratitude: List three things you appreciate about yourself daily, focusing on qualities rather than achievements.
Embracing Christ’s Love
Christ’s love is not just an abstract concept; it is a transformative force that changes how we see ourselves and others. By turning to Him in prayer and scripture study, we can feel His love more profoundly.
Personal Story: Finding Worth in Christ
Anna struggled with feelings of inadequacy after losing her job. She constantly compared herself to others and felt like a failure. Through prayer and studying scriptures like Jeremiah 29:11—“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end”—she began to see her worth beyond her career. “I realized that my value doesn’t come from my job but from who I am as a daughter of God. That truth gave me the confidence to move forward with faith,” Anna shares.
Practical Ways to Nurture Self-Worth
- Daily Scripture Study and Prayer: Spend time each day connecting with God and reflecting on His love. Scriptures like Psalm 139:14—“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made”—can serve as powerful reminders of your worth.
- Limit Comparisons: Social media and societal standards often fuel feelings of inadequacy. Limit time spent comparing yourself to others and focus on your unique journey.
- Serve Others: Serving others can shift the focus away from self-criticism and remind you of your capacity to make a difference.
- Surround Yourself with Positivity: Build a supportive network of friends and family who uplift and encourage you.
- Engage in Self-Care: Prioritize activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit, such as exercise, hobbies, and time in nature.
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10 Christlike Affirmations
- “I am a beloved child of God, created in His image and loved unconditionally.”
- Reminds us of our divine heritage and inherent worth.
- “Through Christ, I can overcome all challenges and find strength.”
- Encourages reliance on the Savior for empowerment in trials.
- “I am forgiven and made whole through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.”
- Focuses on the healing and redemptive power of the Savior.
- “I choose kindness and compassion in all my interactions, reflecting Christ’s love.”
- Promotes Christlike behavior in relationships.
- “God has a purpose for me, and I trust His plan for my life.”
- Builds faith in God’s eternal perspective and guidance.
- “I am capable of growth and change, becoming more like Christ each day.”
- Encourages progress and transformation through the gospel.
- “I see others through Christ’s eyes, recognizing their divine worth.”
- Inspires empathy and love for all people.
- “I am never alone; God’s Spirit is with me to guide and comfort.”
- Provides assurance of God’s constant presence and support.
- “I have the power to forgive and let go of resentment, following Christ’s example.”
- Promotes peace and healing through forgiveness.
- “My worth is not defined by the world, but by my identity as a disciple of Christ.”
- Grounds self-worth in eternal truths rather than external validation.
These affirmations can be used daily to nurture faith, build confidence, and strengthen discipleship.
Reflective Questions
- How do you see yourself in light of your divine identity as a child of God?
- What negative self-talk do you struggle with, and how can you replace it with Christ-centered affirmations?
- When have you felt Christ’s love most profoundly, and how did it impact your self-worth?
- What practical steps can you take today to nurture a healthy sense of self-worth?
Advice from Psychologists and Gospel Insights
Psychologists emphasize the importance of self-compassion, which aligns beautifully with gospel teachings. Dr. Kristin Neff, a leading researcher in self-compassion, identifies three core components:
- Self-Kindness: Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend.
- Common Humanity: Recognize that imperfection is a shared human experience.
- Mindfulness: Be present with your thoughts and feelings without judgment.
These principles resonate with Christ’s teachings of love and grace. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland said, “Be kind regarding human frailty—your own as well as that of those who serve with you in the Church. Let us remember that we are not yet perfect.”
Conclusion: Seeing Ourselves Through Christ’s Eyes
True love for ourselves begins with seeing ourselves as Christ does. By embracing our divine identity, combating negative self-talk, and nurturing our connection with the Savior, we can develop a healthy sense of self-worth. As we do so, we are better equipped to love others and fulfill our divine purpose.
Let us strive to view ourselves with the same compassion and love that the Savior offers. In doing so, we can find peace, joy, and confidence in our eternal worth.
Which tactic are you going to use first to increase your self-love? Let us know in the comments below!
Wishing you lots of love,
Vanessa Rooney – LDS Mum
